“Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person: having neither to weigh thoughts nor to measure words, but pour them out just as they are, chaff and grain together. Knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.” – John Oliver Hobbs
My mother-in-law has had this quote, written in beautiful calligraphy, framed and hanging on her kitchen wall for over thirty years. A dear friend gave it to her. This past weekend she gave it to me. I am still blown away sitting here looking at it, because I know how special it is to her. I need to find the perfect place to hang it.
What I love about this quote is that it describes an essential friend we all need. So often we guard what we say and lack the freedom to truly express who we are with others. Why? Because most people in our lives are judgmental, jealous, or conditional with their love. Few seek to know us at our core. Even fewer give the benefit of the doubt and are quick to forgive. But when you have someone who loves you no matter what you say or do, it is a true gift. Recognize and nurture those relationships. They are the ones that matter.
Do you have friends you feel safe with in your life? More importantly, are you the type of friend that others feel safe with?